What you have that others don't

Most people don't realize how much they compare themselves to others. The saying goes "comparison is the thief of joy" and in this case and sense it's absolutely true.

Not only are we bombarded by messages on a daily, commercials and marketing and all other kind of medias, that reminds us of the things we lack, and try to make us feel like we're not good enough, or that we don't have enough, that we don't look beautiful enough or that we didn't travel enough or own enough. Sure, it all serves and can serve as great inspiration too, but for most people on a subconscious level it actually is kind of draining... Draining of our gratitude (attitude for gratitude), our time/energy, but ultimately our confidence and our over-all satisfaction with life and in life.

"There is no place or space for those who are miserable for other people, others wealth, happiness, success - you name it!"

But the sense of lack stretches even further, or, goes even deeper. Most people compare to the ones closest to them; colleagues and peers or even their friends and family members. And allow themselves feeling upset or disheartened by the fact that they have a lot more than they themselves do.

Jealousy is never innocent

People think that the sadness they feel in comparison to others just is an indication of that they wish they had that, but that's not at all what actually is happening or being done - it's far from that innocent! It's intoxicating (in so many ways I won't be able to cover it all in one article) to mainly themselves but also the ones they're doing it to. It's one state of the many states of jealousy, as well as it is an adopting of a victim-mentality. Unless actually is in a really sh***y bottom, which it would be normal and OK to feel that way, to find it difficult to be happy for someone else, but that's not the kind of situation I'm referring to here. I'm referring to the ones with "ordinary" lives.If there is anything and something that we need more of in the world right now it is definitely support, encouragement, joy and cheerfulness. There is no place or space for those who are miserable for other people, others wealth, happiness, success - you name it!

Being happy for someone else doesn't mean that you'll automatically be included in their joy and happiness and success and wealth - it gives you the strength necessary to pursue your own. If you can't be excited for others "riches" how are you going to root for yourself? This is something that I learned in hindsight after doing that for a long time already, that all that support and help and encouragement I had given to others became a massive amount of "loving" energy that could be channeled into my own endeavors.

The little child-me was right, there is no such thing as being too good!

People very often think that the sadness they feel in comparison to others just is an indicator of that they simply wished they had that, or was like that, but that's not what they're actually doing. What they're doing is that they're setting themselves up for failure - it might be slowly, but it's surely! From the point of view of the person you can't be happy for - you look; Powerless. Plainly and clearly. Pathetic, petty & pity. The number 1, first thing that you have to understand and realize is that EVERYONE are dealing with their own insecurities.

People don't have the time to deal with someone who doesn't have the capacity to be with more successful people without getting upset. It's childish. And if you're that person - you have probably burned more bridges than you can imagine, staying in lack and fearful thinking. Lack and fear produces more lack and fear, there is nothing that grows and escalates faster than negativity. Feeling sad with someone else's happiness is never fair. Not to them, and not to you. Wishing that you could have what others have or be as they are can be felt with confidence and optimism, joy, excitement and confidence - and doesn't have to and definitely shouldn't be the thief of your joy.